Why Liberal, Leftist, Democrat, Woke Women Are Products of Dysfunctional Families and Lives

Why Liberal, Leftist, Democrat, Woke Women Are Products of Dysfunctional Families and Lives

By Bobby Darvish - darvishintelligence.blogspot.com

As an Iranian-American ex-Muslim who has walked a long path from socialism to Christian conservatism, I’ve seen the radical changes within myself and society that have shaped the culture around us. One of the most disturbing trends of our time is the rise of the "liberal, leftist, democrat, woke" women, who have increasingly become the face of progressive movements. From my perspective, after years of activism and reflection, it is clear that many of these women are products of dysfunctional families and troubled lives—experiences that have shaped their views and behaviors in profound ways.

The Impact of Dysfunctional Families

In my experience, many leftist women I’ve encountered in my time as the Executive Director of CAIR Columbus and President of the Muslim Forum of Utah grew up in homes where dysfunction ruled the roost. This dysfunction often manifests in broken families, absentee fathers, and emotional or physical abuse. These experiences create a deep sense of insecurity and a distorted understanding of relationships, authority, and gender roles.

One of the greatest tragedies I’ve witnessed is the collapse of traditional family structures. In homes where mothers struggle with depression or where fathers are absent or neglectful, daughters often internalize these failures. They learn, consciously or unconsciously, that the world is unfair and that they must fight against it. However, the fight often becomes misplaced—focused not on true injustices, but on ideological battles that disregard reason and reality.

This dysfunction leads to a collective frustration, and as these women grow older, they seek out ideologies that promise empowerment and equality but fail to address the root of their pain. The radical left offers them a platform to project their anger and discontent onto society at large, but without ever healing their own wounds. These ideologies often leave them feeling more empty and bitter, as they are pushed further into a mindset of victimhood rather than self-empowerment.

The Rejection of Tradition

Growing up in a culturally rich Iranian-American family, I understand the importance of traditions and the role they play in shaping one’s values. For many leftist women, however, tradition is something to be rejected or destroyed. They see traditional gender roles and the concept of the nuclear family as oppressive institutions that hold them back from their true potential. This often stems from a deep resentment of their past experiences, where traditional family structures may have led to feelings of restriction or exploitation.

Unfortunately, the rejection of tradition has left many women spiritually and emotionally adrift. They seek meaning in the hollow promises of feminism, socialism, and other progressive movements, but never seem to find lasting peace. The belief that society must be completely restructured to cater to every individual's desires becomes their new gospel, yet it never satisfies the deep-seated void created by broken relationships and childhood trauma.

The Role of Wokeism in Their Lives

Wokeism has become a mechanism for many of these women to channel their anger. They become hyper-aware of social issues, fixating on perceived slights and injustices, while often disregarding the realities of their own personal lives. This heightened awareness, however, is not based on true understanding or empathy—it is often a smokescreen for their own unhealed wounds. Instead of working to restore their relationships and find peace, they project their anger onto society, blaming the world for their personal dissatisfaction.

In their worldview, men are often seen as the enemy, and traditional societal structures are viewed as systems of oppression. Their social media posts and public personas are often filled with accusatory rhetoric and a deep disdain for the conservative values that I now embrace. The paradox, however, is that these women are often the most disconnected from the very family structures and values that could heal their pain. They create a worldview based on grievance rather than reconciliation, pushing their beliefs onto others, and in doing so, they perpetuate the dysfunction.

Finding Healing and Purpose

My own journey—from being a former vegan and socialist to finding faith in Christianity and conservatism—has been one of healing and reconciliation. As an ex-Muslim, I understand the trauma of rejecting one's upbringing and trying to rebuild a broken identity. But what I have come to realize is that healing only comes when we return to the foundational values that have stood the test of time—family, faith, and personal responsibility.

In contrast to the path of victimhood that so many woke women follow, there is a better way: a path that embraces the values of discipline, respect for tradition, and personal accountability. It is through the family structure, whether biological or spiritual, that true growth happens. A woman who seeks to heal her wounds through family, faith, and service will find far more fulfillment than one who seeks solace in activism that divorces her from her roots.

As a Christian conservative and an Iranian-American, I have come to see the world through a lens that prioritizes faith, personal responsibility, and the preservation of family. The problems facing many of today’s liberal women are not ones that can be solved through politics or ideology. They are personal, emotional, and spiritual problems that need healing at the core of their being. Only when these women seek peace within themselves and return to the healing power of tradition and family can they find the true empowerment they seek.

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