By Bobby Darvish, Iranian-American Ex-Muslim, Former Vegan, Former Democrat, Former Socialist, Former CAIR-Columbus Executive Director, Former Muslim Forum of Utah President, Christian Conservative LDS Priest
In today’s cultural landscape, one of the most controversial yet entirely natural relationship dynamics—older men dating and marrying younger women—has come under relentless attack by the leftist, woke establishment. For centuries, it was common and even encouraged for older, successful men to take younger wives, often resulting in stable marriages and prosperous families. However, modern woke ideology demonizes this practice, framing it as inherently exploitative, patriarchal, or even predatory. This assault on age-gap relationships is not about protecting women; rather, it is a calculated attack on traditional masculinity, family values, and the natural order that has sustained civilizations for millennia.
The Demonization of Traditional Masculinity
One of the key reasons leftist ideologues attack large age-gap marriages is their broader war on traditional masculinity. Strong, established men who seek younger wives represent the very ideals the woke movement despises: success, stability, and the ability to lead a family. Modern feminism and its offshoots promote the notion that men should be emasculated, self-effacing, and weak, rather than confident providers.
The idea that a man in his 30s or 40s marrying a woman in her early 20s is somehow immoral is a relatively new, artificial construct. Historically, women have sought men with resources and wisdom, while men have been drawn to youthful vitality and fertility. This dynamic is biologically hardwired and serves a natural reproductive and social function. Yet, woke ideologues attempt to frame such relationships as oppressive simply because they reinforce traditional gender roles—roles that have sustained humanity for thousands of years.
The Left’s Promotion of Dysfunctional Relationships
While the left relentlessly attacks age-gap marriages, they simultaneously push for relationships that defy traditional norms. Modern progressives celebrate casual hookups, polyamory, and gender nonconformity while shaming men who seek commitment and marriage with younger women. This contradiction reveals the left’s true motives: they do not care about the well-being of women but instead aim to destabilize the nuclear family.
By discouraging successful men from marrying younger women, leftists push women toward careerism and delayed motherhood, often resulting in loneliness, failed relationships, and declining birth rates. Feminist propaganda promotes the idea that women should focus on careers rather than family, yet when many hit their 30s and realize they want marriage and children, they are told it is too late or struggle to find a high-value partner.
The Hypocrisy of the Left’s Outrage
Leftists selectively target age-gap marriages when they involve straight men seeking younger women, yet they remain silent when the same dynamic occurs within progressive or LGBTQ+ circles. The entertainment industry, which is dominated by leftist ideology, frequently glorifies older women dating younger men or same-sex couples with vast age disparities. This blatant double standard exposes their true agenda: the attack on heterosexual masculinity and the traditional family unit.
Furthermore, figures within leftist circles are often caught in far more scandalous and exploitative relationships, yet their actions are excused by their ideological peers. Hollywood elites, leftist politicians, and progressive activists are frequently exposed for engaging in inappropriate behavior with younger partners, but these incidents are either ignored or excused because they align with the woke agenda.
The Natural Order and Its Benefits
From an evolutionary and sociological perspective, age-gap marriages serve a clear purpose. Older men bring financial stability, wisdom, and leadership to a relationship, while younger women bring fertility, energy, and nurturing qualities. This balance has been a cornerstone of stable societies for centuries. Studies have shown that marriages with moderate age gaps often have higher success rates compared to those where both partners are the same age, largely because such relationships align with natural biological and psychological tendencies.
A society that encourages stable, productive, family-oriented relationships benefits everyone. Yet, the left seeks to dismantle this structure by discouraging relationships that have historically led to strong families and stable communities.
Conclusion
The leftist woke ideology’s attack on age-gap marriages is yet another example of their broader war on masculinity, femininity, and the nuclear family. By demonizing successful men who seek younger wives, they seek to erode the very foundations of strong societies. Instead of embracing destructive, temporary, and unstable relationship models, society should recognize the value of traditional, time-tested family structures.
By rejecting the woke narrative and embracing the natural order, men and women alike can find lasting happiness, stability, and purpose—free from the ideological shackles of modern leftist propaganda.
Citations
David P. Schmitt, "The Evolutionary Psychology of Age-Gap Relationships," Psychological Science, Vol. 27, No. 8 (2016).
Steven Rhoads, Taking Sex Differences Seriously (Encounter Books, 2004).
Camille Paglia, "The War on Men," The New York Times, February 2019.
Roger Scruton, Fools, Frauds and Firebrands: Thinkers of the New Left (Bloomsbury Continuum, 2015).
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