Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Cowardice vs. Courage: Progress Comes With Conflict

"Cowardice is impotence worse than violence. The coward desires revenge but being afraid to die, he looks to others, maybe to the government of the day, to do the work of defense for him. A coward is less than a man. He does not deserve to be a member of a society of men and women." - Mahatma Gandhi

The "Value" that my family and I detest the most...Cowardice is a trait wherein fear and excess self-concern override doing or saying what is right, good and of help to others or oneself in a time of need—it is the opposite of courage. As a label, "cowardice" indicates a failure of character in the face of a challenge.
Under many military codes of justice, cowardice in combat is a crime punishable by death (e.g. shot at dawn). The term describes a character flaw which has been shunned and disdained within most, if not all cultures, whilst courage, typically viewed as a virtue, is admired and encouraged.One thing I have learned over the years in love and work is that you should never give more of yourself than what the other party offers. If you do nothing but give and get nothing in return, it is not a balanced relationship. Also, if your going to sacrifice yourself for somebody or for work, make sure that they are doing the same for you. "Die for one who will die for you"...Don't let yourself be used, abused, and abandoned. Make sure you are taking care of yourself and strong in your foundation, only then can you help others and do anything of real benefit or value. Something else that comes to mind is that you need to make sure your values match with that of the other party, be it in a relationship or for business. If your other party does not value the things you value, they will treat your actions with contempt and will degrade you, because they simply can not understand certain concepts ie. Honor, Integrity, Loyalty, Dedication, etc. If somebody values money more than honor, then you don't have a chance. The reverse is also true, if your goal is money and you deal with somebody who values honor more, then you are going to have conflicts. Which that in and of itself is an issue. Only cowards run from conflict and due to their cowardice, they may abandon you instead of trying to work out the issue. Progress and success comes from conflict, without conflict you will never achieve anything of value. Instead, you will always be running away from your problems that will eventually catch up to you at some point. Overall, you need to treat people in a manner where they earn their respect from you, because people value things they earn more than things that are just given to them.

No comments: