By Bobby Darvish, Iranian-American Ex-Muslim, Former Vegan, Former Democrat, Former Socialist, Former CAIR-Columbus Executive Director, Former Muslim Forum of Utah President, Christian Conservative LDS Priest
In today's Western world, traditional relationships and marriage are on the decline. While many factors contribute to this trend, social commentator and YouTube personality Pearl Davis, better known as "JustPearlyThings," has exposed a hard truth: modern women, influenced by radical feminism and societal shifts, are actively rejecting relationships in favor of fleeting empowerment and unrealistic expectations. Her viral discussions, featuring both men and women, have shed light on why many young women no longer prioritize marriage and family life.
The Feminist Influence: Teaching Women to Reject Men
For decades, feminism has shifted from advocating for equality to encouraging women to disdain traditional relationships. As Pearl points out, women are often told to "focus on their careers," "never settle," and "act like men" in dating, rather than embracing complementary roles in relationships. This has led to a crisis where many women view commitment as a burden rather than a blessing (Davis, 2023).
This mindset is reflected in data. The Pew Research Center found that the number of never-married women has significantly increased over the past few decades, with 41% of American women between the ages of 25-49 remaining unmarried (Pew Research, 2023). This isn’t due to a lack of available partners but rather a cultural narrative that discourages women from committing to long-term relationships.
Unrealistic Standards and the "High-Value Man" Illusion
Pearl frequently critiques modern dating standards, highlighting how women have developed unrealistic expectations when selecting a partner. Social media and hypergamy—seeking the highest-status mate possible—have led women to believe they deserve a top-tier man while offering little in return. According to a study by the Institute for Family Studies, modern dating apps have created a dynamic where the top 10% of men receive the majority of female attention, while average men are often overlooked (IFS, 2023).
This phenomenon has led to a paradox: women claim to want relationships but refuse to commit to men who don't meet near-impossible standards. Pearl emphasizes that in prior generations, women understood the value of partnership and compromise. Today, many are encouraged to hold out for "Prince Charming" rather than build a stable relationship with a good, hardworking man.
The Rise of Female Independence: A Double-Edged Sword
Modern women have been told that independence is the ultimate goal, and while financial self-sufficiency is admirable, it has come at the expense of family and commitment. Many young women now prioritize career advancement over settling down, believing they can have it all—only to realize later in life that finding a husband and starting a family isn't as easy as they were led to believe.
Pearl often interviews women in their late 20s and 30s who regret prioritizing temporary pleasures over long-term security. These women express frustration over the lack of available men willing to commit, yet fail to recognize how they were conditioned to reject commitment when they were younger. Data from the U.S. Census Bureau supports this, showing that single, childless women are among the most dissatisfied demographic groups (Census Bureau, 2023).
The Solution: A Return to Traditional Values
Pearl's commentary suggests that the solution isn't complicated: modern women must re-evaluate their priorities and recognize the value of commitment, femininity, and partnership. Traditional gender roles, which have stood the test of time, offer stability and fulfillment that the modern independent lifestyle often fails to deliver.
Society must also acknowledge the destructive messages being fed to young women. From Hollywood to academia, radical feminism has demonized marriage, painted men as oppressors, and promoted selfish individualism over family-oriented values. If modern women truly want happiness, they need to reject these harmful narratives and embrace the time-tested wisdom of traditional relationships.
Conclusion
Pearl Davis has exposed an uncomfortable truth: modern women, shaped by feminism and unrealistic expectations, are actively avoiding relationships. This crisis is not because men have changed but because women have been misled into thinking they don’t need men—until it’s too late. The decline of marriage and relationships is not a sign of progress; it's a warning that our culture has lost its way. If we hope to restore stable families and lasting love, we must encourage women to embrace commitment, reject toxic feminist ideology, and recognize that true fulfillment comes not from endless independence, but from meaningful relationships built on mutual respect and shared values.
References
Davis, P. (2023). JustPearlyThings Podcast. YouTube.
Pew Research Center. (2023). "Marriage and Family Trends in the U.S."
Institute for Family Studies (IFS). (2023). "Modern Dating App Statistics and Their Effect on Relationships."
U.S. Census Bureau. (2023). "Household and Economic Statistics on Single Women."
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