By Bobby Darvish, Iranian-American Ex-Muslim, Former Vegan, Former Democrat, Former Socialist, Former CAIR-Columbus Executive Director, Former Muslim Forum of Utah President, Christian Conservative LDS Priest
In today’s society, we see a troubling pattern: men are constantly told they must validate women simply for existing. The modern dating landscape is filled with simps who chase attention rather than seeking compliance and genuine attraction. As a conservative man, I refuse to play by these broken rules. Validation should be reserved for women who demonstrate real attraction through compliance, not just those who offer fleeting attention.
Attention vs. Compliance: The Key Difference
Many men mistake attention for interest. A woman liking your Instagram post, responding to a text, or even engaging in casual conversation does not mean she is truly interested in you. Women give attention freely, but they only comply with men they truly respect and desire. Compliance is the real indicator of attraction because it shows investment—she is willing to follow your lead, respect your decisions, and align herself with your values.
This is not about dominance in a negative sense—it’s about natural polarity. Throughout history, strong men have led, and women who found them attractive naturally followed. The feminist movement, fueled by leftist ideology, has tried to invert this dynamic, pushing the idea that men must constantly seek approval from women. This is wrong. A man’s validation should be rare, valuable, and given only when a woman proves herself worthy.
Compliance Is a Sign of Genuine Desire
Attraction is not about words; it’s about actions. If a woman is truly attracted to a man, she will show it through her behavior. This means:
She follows your lead without resistance.
She values your time and does not play games.
She seeks your approval rather than demanding that you seek hers.
She respects your authority in the relationship.
Men who understand this principle do not waste time on women who offer breadcrumbs of attention while withholding real effort. A woman’s true level of interest is shown through what she does, not what she says.
Why Simping Destroys Masculinity
The rise of weak, validation-seeking men is a symptom of a larger cultural problem. The leftist media and feminist ideology have promoted the lie that men must pedestalize women to gain favor. This mentality has created an entire generation of men who:
Constantly seek female approval.
Allow themselves to be manipulated by attention-seeking behavior.
Fail to demand respect and compliance before giving validation.
True conservative masculinity rejects this weak mindset. A man of value does not beg for approval—he sets the standard and rewards those who meet it. Women are naturally drawn to this strength, and they respect men who understand their own worth.
The Conservative Approach: Strength, Leadership, and Standards
As a conservative man, I believe that relationships should be built on traditional values. Men must reclaim their natural leadership role and refuse to chase validation from women who have not earned it. The correct approach is simple:
Recognize your value. Your time, attention, and resources are precious. Do not waste them on women who do not demonstrate true attraction.
Observe her actions, not her words. If a woman is not compliant, she is not genuinely attracted. Move on.
Reward compliance, not attention. Attention-seeking behavior is manipulation. True attraction manifests in respect and submission to masculine leadership.
Reject weak, leftist ideals. Modern society tells men to be passive and seek approval. Ignore this nonsense and embrace the strength that made men great throughout history.
Conclusion: Set the Standard, Be the Prize
A man’s validation is valuable and should only be given to women who demonstrate real attraction through compliance. Attention from a woman means nothing if she does not show investment in your leadership. True conservative masculinity demands respect, strength, and standards. The weak men of today are a product of a culture that has devalued masculinity, but we do not have to follow their path.
Men must reclaim their power by refusing to chase attention and instead seeking real attraction, rooted in respect and compliance. A woman who truly wants you will follow your lead without hesitation. Anything less is just a distraction.
Citations
Rollo Tomassi, The Rational Male (Createspace Independent Publishing, 2013).
Jordan Peterson, 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos (Toronto: Random House Canada, 2018).
Patrick J. Buchanan, The Death of the West: How Dying Populations and Immigrant Invasions Imperil Our Country and Civilization (New York: Thomas Dunne Books, 2002).
Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics (Translated by W.D. Ross, 350 BC).
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